Wedding receptions will never be complete without the wedding toast. While these speeches seem to occur naturally, most people actually dread the thought of having to make them. If you are close to the couple—say you are the best man or the maid of honor, or a brother or a sister, you will be expected to say something about the happy couple. Delivering a wedding toast should not be difficult. It’s just like any other speech, except it’s more casual. If you’d rather faint than say a wedding speech, here are some tips for you.

It’s not a big deal.

Of course for the newlyweds, it is. However, a moment that won’t last for five minutes won’t matter too much after that. Besides, all the guests will be busy with greeting the couple, as well as drinking and dancing to focus on your speech.

Stick to the basics.

The purpose of the wedding toast is to say something nice about the couple—as individuals and why you think they make a great match. It is also a chance for you to wish them a long and blissful married life. No need to dig the couple’s childhood memories that make them feel awkward or past relationships that are not any of the guests’ business.

Leave sex out of it.

So you’re the bride’s BFF or the groom’s high school buddy but you don’t have any excuse to mention sex or hint at it before, during, or after your speech—not with words and definitely NOT with gestures. There will be kids and grandmas and grandpas there. Are you sure they’d like to hear about it?

You’re allowed one glass of alcohol for confidence boost.

Some people feel bolder when given a shot of champagne or spirits. However, make sure that you don’t drink too much that it impairs your thinking, judgment, or your memory.


Giving a wedding toast takes confidence and being comfortable with the whole public speaking thing. Practice in front of the mirror several times until it becomes very natural to you. Record your speech and listen to it and see if you can improve on your diction or your pace.

Keep it natural.

Choose a language that you are comfortable with or a style of speech that reflects your personality. Don’t add a British accent or an Aussie accent if you’re not a native. Remember that most of these people know you. There’s no need to put on a show.

Follow your natural speaking pace.

Don’t rush the speech. Take your time, look at everyone with ease, and establish rapport with your audience. Breathe. Then deliver your speech. Also remember to smile. Know that these people would want you to deliver your wedding toast successfully. They did not come to the wedding looking for someone to mock.

Thank the bride and the groom for the opportunity and wish them well.

The newlyweds are hoping you’d wish them a happy married life. Say something nice and mean it. They will appreciate it.

Congratulations! Now you can easily deliver your wedding toast. Enjoy the moment.